A Worryers Tale

Why do I worry so much? So often?

Why am I always so anxious?

I worry that there’s nothing to worry about at times. I want to learn to let go – but I can’t.

Worry strips me of my enjoyment of life, like being naked in a field of thorns.

Restless sleep and tired days makes life a chore where it should be a joy.

Why can’t I just learn to relax and chill a little? Just once in a while would be bliss

I really envy those people who make life look effortless

Worry, fear, anxiety are like a paralysis of the soul. Draining energy like a leaking bucket – do I deserve to be punished like this?

I don’t deserve a good, decent life until I can conquer this affliction – but how? and when?

I must be pathetic living my life like this, but it’s all I know and am used to.

Who’s going to help me turn it all around?

It has to be me. I have to take responsibility for making it happen. Oh how wonderful it would be to wake tomorrow with the sun at the centre of my soul

It can be done; people can turn their life around. With purpose, positive energy and a real desire to better themselves. It takes time and it’s never going to be an overnight miracle but by focusing on each day as it comes, looking for small incremental improvements and building on these, change does occur. It’s about taking personal responsibility and ownership.

I should know – I’ve been there and don’t intend to go back.

Getting Back on the Horse

As an avid cricket fan I’ve been watching the recent two match test series between England and New Zealand with interest. An exciting and enthralling battle with highs and lows for both sides, and a fair 1 – 1 series draw in my humble opinion.

But what really caught my attention was the mental approach of the New Zealand team. Having played an exciting and very positive brand of cricket in the first test at Lords only to finally lose pretty comprehensively you might have expected them to approach the second test at Headingly with some apprehension, whilst most English supporters must have been feeling pretty confident of their side’s chances to take a series win. The turning point for England in what’s been a difficult winter perhaps?

Brendon McCullum and his team had other ideas however – taking the match to England from the start on the first morning.

Controlled aggression, teamwork, a strong work ethic and a positive focus throughout. The final ingredient was effective and correct decision making in the heat of the battle. But for me, the one single quality that impressed me was the Kiwi’s unfaltering commitment to their team values and beliefs – positive, attacking cricket with both the bat and the ball. After the crushing first test defeat it could have been easy for them to take a cautious, defensive, defeat-avoiding approach to the second test. But no, they played to their strengths and followed their principles, eventually overcoming that first test defeat by inflicting one of their own on England, thus providing a fitting analogy for getting back on the horse.

As in life, when things get tough – stay positive, stick to your principles and make the right decisions.

You won’t always win, but you’ll win more than you lose!!